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God’s Impeccable Timing!

Published February 19, 2017 by birdieklh

Oh my goodness . . . why am I surprised?! Silly me! He ALWAYS does things perfectly, and here I am still basking in His awesome love.

I simply HAVE to share some of what our awesome Lord has done.

You see, my husband and I went on a retreat – knew it would bring healing, set some things right in our lives, but we really had NO idea how much so! Without going into all the details, let me simply say this – a HUGE bolder of “Unworthiness & Rejection” was revealed, stripped away and TOSSED my-bolder as far as one can possibly throw. It was a very intense, introspective time of examination, and it was not pleasant . . . ah, but the lightness within, after letting, go was amazing. It is amazing still, now, a week later.

The story does not end there . . . no, my friends, it is but a beginning.

There had been (in the past few months) a ‘feeling’ of distance (sort of a wall) that I had noticed. After what happened on that retreat, and after prayer, I reached out to the person explaining that I was sensing a distancing in our relationship. I asked if I had somehow offended them. They responded, “let’s talk”. So, today, we did.

 

I’m telling you that God’s PERFECT timing is just that. The person didn’t feel a ‘release’ to speak with me until I reached out. Then, when we had our glorious encounter, I KNEW that had I / we tried to ‘talk’ (of the things we discussed) before . . . it would of been a complete devastating disaster to me. But it wasn’t! No, not at all. With that burden;  that bolder of unworthiness lifted, I was able to have a normal, very productive, incredible and glorious time of receiving the love that was being offered.

Sometimes we have to have difficult discussions with one another – to truly walk in the Love of Christ, to be the body He intended us to be, we need to speak to one another from time to time with. Instruction, presented and received in love is SO freeing! SO healing! SO refreshing!

I am grateful to God for placing Godly friends around me. Those that love me enough to address an area they see (or perceive) differently than that which God intends for us.

Once we have allowed God to heal the trauma of our past – once we’ve allowed Holy Spirit to download into our hearts how precious we are to Him – once we understand / grasp His GREAT love for us . . . we can RECEIVE and grow from what others (who truly love us) have to say.

How I thank Him for the surgery He preformed on my inner-man at the retreat.

How I thank Him for showing me that I AM worthy – so worthy, in fact that He sent His Son to die in my place that I could have eternal life!

How I thank Him for helping me (over the past few months) to see and recognize (and we are still working on the understanding) that what He has me doing in the Kingdom is of great worth. It is not what I had felt I should be doing. It is not what others have spoken over my life, that I would be doing. I had (from the depths of that heavy bolder of unworthiness) felt that what I was doing was nothing . . . but it IS EXACTLY what He has for me at this time.

I am praising Him for allowing me to embrace the woman He is designing me to be! I have begun to feel an excitement in what He has me doing. Beginning to be comfortable with me . . . probably for the very first time in my entire life . . . it is an incredible revelation and it is full of joy and peace like I’ve never known before.

You know, sometimes we hear a word spoken (or in my case, multiple ‘confirmations’ of a word spoken) over us and we jump in with everything we have. We push forward, we keep speaking it . . . proclaiming (calling forth those things that are not as though they are) but . . . was it REALLY the Lord speaking those things over us? Did we / did I (no) take it to prayer and seek His plan? Unfortunately, I just went with it. Then, with that bolder of unworthiness strapped to my back, I pressed on. What did that accomplish? Heartache and disappointment time after time after time. I would find myself reacting out of that “trying to prove . . . (something) myself” – oh, Lord, what a mess!

Why am I making myself vulnerable by sharing such intimate details of my faith walk? Because I am praying that perhaps it will help another person on their own pilgrimage.

May I suggest a thorough examination of your heart:

  • Am I reacting in ways that are not mature in some areas?
  • Do things people say or do (or not say or do) cause me to feel rejected?
  • Do I find myself always struggling with “please listen to me, I am important too”?
  • Am I uncomfortable with where God has me right now, when I ‘want’ something different?
  • What IS my real perception of myself (on the inside, when no one is around)?
  • Does that perception line up with how others see you? What do their reactions/words tell me about who I am?
  • Have I absolutely taken the words spoken over me and run with them, or have I totally laid them on the altar before the Lord, seeking His guidance, His direction, His vision, His plan?

I have been walking with the Lord for a very long time. I have been serving Him for a very long time. Yet, I needed DEEP inner healing and a release I did not even realize I had need of! If you would have asked me a week and a half ago if I was completely free in the Lord, I would of answered quickly and emphatically, “YES!” – but, I would have been very wrong. We are always being stretched, shaped, molded into His image; however, sometimes we resist Him – not knowingly, but resisting still the same. That is where I was . . . I pray that I will not be there any more!

Abba Father, my love for You continues to grow more and more each and every day, and my heart overflows with gratitude to You for all You have done, are doing and will continue to do in my life. Help me, Holy Spirit, to remain pliable on Your Potter’s wheel . . . like the song you gave me yesterday, “I bow before Your Throne, Jesus, I trust in You, alone, Jesus – I lay my life on Your Altar, have Your way in me, Jesus . . . ”  I bless you, my God! Lover of my soul, King, Savior, Lord . . . amen

 Dear ones, we NEED to be able to see ourselves as God sees us. We NEED to understand that what He says about us is Truth and what others may have spoken over us/ into us throughout our lifetimes may have caused deep damage that He desires to heal.

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It is my prayer that you, too, will find your healing.

© klh 4-Given Ministries

What Happened?!

Published January 12, 2017 by birdieklh

Wham! Out of nowhere it hits . . .

WORDS

ACTIONS

ATTITUDES

Things start flying at you and you are wondering what in the world happened? Where did THAT come from and why???? So, you ask. The person tells you something that is SO not the truth of the actual situation. They are completely convinced that something was said or done that you can not convince them otherwise. Why is that?! People involved in the same situation yet both fully believing it developed in a different way.

HURT

PAIN

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DOUBTS

???????’S bombarding your brain

Oh, Father, what to do, what to do . . . (His answers – click the links below)…

…. “Come unto Me”

….“Take refuge IN Me”

….“Know that I am your Defense

….“Know that I will always be with you in all things”

….“I have given you My peace”

Abba Father, thank You . . . I am grasping Your peace and taking refuge in You, and ‘trying’ (very hard) to walk and rest in TRUSTING You . . . You have NEVER let me down, and I know deep inside You never will. Help my faith, Abba, right now the flesh is very weak and shaky. Soften the hearts of all involved in the situations that are causing such turmoil. Create harmony once again in our lives so that we can continue on serving You and loving one another unconditionally. Amen.

© klh 4-Given Ministries

 

We Are in This Together!

Published December 10, 2016 by birdieklh

We come from different backgrounds. We go to different churches. We have sat under different denominational teachings – BUT – we ARE to be in UNITY when it comes to our role in this world. As Christians (as with our armed forces) it should not matter what the uniform we wear is! We are in God’s Army, Jesus Christ is our Commander-in-Chief and we need to face the enemy (satan) TOGETHER!

If we can just try and wrap our brains around this principle:

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In the history of Americans in wartime, there is an underlying sense of “get the job done”. Men and women will walk side-by-side, fight side-by-side, bleed side-by-side, cover one another, do everything they can to ensure the protection of one another, REGARDLESS of the uniform!

THINK ABOUT IT!!! 

How many of us would be willing to link arms with our brothers and sisters (IN Christ) who happen to worship differently than we do?

Can you imagine the IMPACT our unity would have upon this world?

We already have one small example through the results of the presidential election . . . Christians got down on their knees, hooked up with one another at prayer rallies, chimed in onto conference calls for prayer over our nation and the election. Truly humbling themselves, crying out for wisdom, direction and God’s perfect will to be done. The result? A man who was completely godless has given his heart to Jesus. A man who acknowledged that he didn’t need …. fill in the blank, there are so many different things stated . . . now is surrounding himself with Godly counsel! The Vice-President elect (and his wife) are both dynamic, on fire, firm in their faith, Spirit-filled believers.

Another example is right here in San Antonio. A Godly woman, against all odds, was chosen as an interim Mayor, only to be surrounded by the body of Christ with support, love and much prayer – she IS our Mayor. And, just like with Joseph and Daniel, God’s favor has been upon her so much so that even opposition is now supporting her wholeheartedly for the upcoming reelection process!

So . . . let us focus back upon what this article started with . . . We are ALL in this TOGETHER! 

As we come alongside one another in love, forgetting (laying aside) our differences (the uniform we wear) and place our thoughts, intents and purposes towards the things God desires of us – namely LOVE – we CAN pray together, worship together, cover one another, support one another AND advance the Kingdom of God!

I’m in . . . are you?

For further reflection on these thoughts based upon Scripture:

Unity and Maturity in the Body of Christ

Complete Unity . . . so the world can KNOW

Love Brings Forth Unity

©klh 4-Given Ministries

 

SO Much . . .

Published July 11, 2016 by birdieklh

So much anger.

So much pain.

So much grief, Lord,

Help me to remain

At peace with others, and walk in love

Your Perfect Love, sent from Heaven above.

Show me how to help them release

Their frustrations, their angst,

And grab a hold of  Your Peace!

It is only through You that we can find rest

In this land of turmoil and strife

Let us learn to walk in LOVE with others

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As we face each day of life, for

Until Your return when all strife

Will CEASE . . . we can walk with Your Spirit

In Your PERFECT Peace –

Peace with You, by accepting Your Son

Peace with each other, Lord, make us ONE!

We need Your love,

Your grace,

Your peace,

Your wisdom, direction,

Lord, let it increase

Within our hearts and teach us to PRAY –

Pray with passion, with ferver, with tears

Over this Nation, once great, now filled with fears.

Let us use our voices before Your Throne

As well as speaking out here and now

To make Your Truth known!

The answer is YOU – for You are LOVE –

But we’ve neglected to show it

Oh, Father, forgive . . .

May we rise up and THROUGH YOU – LIVE!!!


Dear ones, we have wasted so much time NOT being on our knees before God on behalf of our Nation – our World! We have wasted so much time focusing on the things around us and allowing the enemy of our souls to dim our view of the VICTORY that is already ours through Christ’s finished work on Calvary!

We have forgotten who we are in Him and Who He IS in us!

We have forgotten to share the Hope we have – in fact, we have actually begun to speak gloom and doom along with the world around us!

SHAME ON US!!!

The time is NOW – Christian – ARISE! Wake-up! Speak out (in love) God’s principles! Take a stand (in love). We can be BOLD in our faith as long as we temper it with God’s Love remember it is His Kindness that leads to repentence!  Romans 2:4

 

 

The Precious Blood of Jesus was shed for EVERYONE! 

 

With ALL I Am – I Worship

Published March 10, 2016 by birdieklh

Yesterday I did something I very rarely do . . . I placed a post on FaceBook that was sharing my heart (although it did have a wee bit of negative connotations) . . . One thing most people that REALLY know me will verify – I am ‘real’ – the good, the bad, yes, even the ugly – as the Lord takes me through things, I am open to share the fact that I have had some hurt, some doubts, some questions . . . BUT . . . they can also verify that I am first and foremost a worshiper of my King, Jesus. It is to Him I turn to . . . I worship Him with everything I am, with everything I have. I am His completely – in His presence is my strength, my joy, my encouragement. It is when I am in The King’s chambers that He downloads into my spirit His plans, His purposes, deeper revelations of Who He IS! That, my friends is where I belong – that is where I desire to remain.

On Tuesday morning, during a time of corporate worship with other pastors, ministers and leaders, the Lord gave me a very simple phrase that has stayed with me – I was actually about to sing it out when I felt lead to be quiet and speak of it later. This is what He gave me:

No matter what has gone before – regardless of what the future has in store – we are in Your presence, Lord, we want MORE! (I want more!)

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In response to the ‘negative’ post from yesterday (here is what I posted – “I don’t usually post negative things, but these past two weeks have been building up a lot of ‘stuff’ … out and out attacks from people I really care a lot about … it is SO strange! How can my brothers and sisters in Christ allow the enemy to use them to attack one another?! We are to be working towards unity, harmony and sharing God’s love and support and encouragement with one another … I am, quite frankly, at a loss as to what to do next. Praying and trusting and seeking is where I’m at (along with lots of worship, of course).) – there are some follow up Scriptures He reminded me of . . . I wish to share those with you here as well:

Philippians 4:4-13  J.B. Phillips New Testament (PHILLIPS)

Delight yourselves in God, yes, find your joy in him at all times. Have a reputation for gentleness, and never forget the nearness of your Lord.  Don’t worry over anything whatever; tell God every detail of your needs in earnest and thankful prayer, and the peace of God which transcends human understanding, will keep constant guard over your hearts and minds as they rest in Christ Jesus.  Here is a last piece of advice. If you believe in goodness and if you value the approval of God, fix your minds on the things which are holy and right and pure and beautiful and good. Model your conduct on what you have learned from me, on what I have told you and shown you, and you will find the God of peace will be with you.”

Philippians 2:14-16  The Message (MSG)

Do everything readily and cheerfully—no bickering, no second-guessing allowed! Go out into the world uncorrupted, a breath of fresh air in this squalid and polluted society. Provide people with a glimpse of good living and of the living God. Carry the light-giving Message into the night.”

Colossians 3:12-17 The Message (MSG)

So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it. Let the peace of Christ keep you in tune with each other, in step with each other. None of this going off and doing your own thing. And cultivate thankfulness. Let the Word of Christ—the Message—have the run of the house. Give it plenty of room in your lives. Instruct and direct one another using good common sense. And sing, sing your hearts out to God! Let every detail in your lives—words, actions, whatever—be done in the name of the Master, Jesus, thanking God the Father every step of the way.”

The whole point of my being open, honest, and upfront with my post yesterday was twofold. One, how can you know the victories, how can I testify to the victories if there were no struggles – if people think we always have it “all together” how can we encourage them?! and Two, how can we keep our spirit eyes open, our hearts open to the possible words, actions and attitudes that we may be placing on our brothers and sisters if we don’t take time to reflect once in awhile. Sometimes, we need reminding. dear ones, none of us is perfect. We wound one another – mostly (I believe) unintentionally. But what we DO with that wounding, how we react to those things – that is wherein our victory or defeat lay.

For me – when attacks hit us hard out of nowhere; when doubts arise; when conflicts happen – I have to put on my dancing shoes, grab my flags, and WORSHIP Him with everything within me. And then cover the other people in loving prayer, and seek reconciliation as The Lord leads – be quick to forgive! Do NOT let the enemy get his stinking little foot in the door!

©klh 4-Given Ministries

Trying to live upright in an upside down world.

Published February 7, 2016 by birdieklh

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The above graphic is from brokenlightcollective.com – thank you so much, this captures EXACTLY WHAT what I want to speak about today!  Jennifer Hopkins, who did this photography quite amazingly saw what was in my brain today – well, obviously she had it in her brain long before I did, but I am praising God I found this beautiful work to share with the message!

 

So, these past few days have been kind of a nightmare for me. Honestly, just coming back from an amazing retreat, I guess I should not have been surprised at the attacks. Been there, done that, so why do I forget? (Shrug, sigh.)

Have you ever woken up and thought briefly that EVERYTHING seemed to be Topsy-turvy? Completely turned around? Upside down? Well, that is how I have actually felt for a few days now!

Every single symptom of things I have been diagnosed with in the past had reared their ugly little heads – knocking me off my feet – not to mention personal conflicts/struggles with people that are dear to me! That sly ole’ enemy thinks he can stop my journey on this path of serving my King . . . he is GREATLY mistaken! I stand firmly upon the Word of God, I have my feet planted on solid ground, I have my full armor on, and he will NOT succeed!

Isaiah 54:17 “No weapon formed against you shall prosper, And every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, And their righteousness is from Me,” Says the Lord.” NKJV

Isaiah 53:5 “But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed.” NKJV

Even when the world seems upside down, I refuse to accept it or react to it! When Paul spoke in Romans 12, he told us: Romans 12:2 “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” NKJV – I believe he was not only addressing the things we might be tempted to follow after (things, people, fame, riches, etc.), but also the temptations/trials we face as well. We can CHOOSE to allow them to take us somewhere other than where God desires us to be! Think about it! God has already taken care of everything! We simply need to follow Him, trust in Him and keep on keeping on!

2 Peter 1:3 “His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness.” NIV

Is it easy? No, it is not. BUT . . . in Christ, through Holy Spirit within us, we CAN overcome ALL the attacks of the enemy! We are over comers, we are victorious, we are kings and priests in His Kingdom!

I choose to follow my Savior regardless of any symptoms or conflicts that may arise. I choose to trust in His sovereignty and grace in every aspect of my life. I choose to worship Him, poor out my love and gratitude upon Him for Who He IS not because I may or may not feel like it! He is always worthy of praise!

So, if your world seems topsy-turvy, completely turned around, upside down – turn to the One Who created all things, the One Who holds everything in His loving, strong hands. Rest in Him – trust in Him – keep on walking in the path He has laid before you and KNOW YOU ARE VICTORIOUS!

Against The Flow

Published September 2, 2015 by birdieklh
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Had a GREAT conversation with a very dear friend this morning . . . we discussed a lot of things, but the main emphasis of our discussion was what could be triggering in me certain actions/reactions. And, along with that . . . trying to figure out ‘why’ people didn’t see me like I really am.

Mercy! If someone figures that one out, let me know!

Anyway, it got me to thinking . . . for my whole life (or so it seems) there have been wrong impressions of who I am and how I am. I can say one thing, and it be heard as something completely different. Or, I can do something because I feel prompted by Holy Spirit to do it, and yet people can assume I want something for it or from it! There have been years of ‘trying to prove’ myself to others . . . I truly believe I had overcome all of that ‘junk’, but I am praying for more revelation in light of today’s discussion.

It is as if I must live my life with some kind of a shield around me that does not allow people to really see me, or the ‘real’ me. Do you ever feel like that? Do you ever feel like there are times when you are going completely against the flow of others around you – I mean – you ARE going in the same direction, in the same circles, attending the same functions, etc., but something just isn’t quite in sync with them?

All I truly know is that I am a much loved child of the Living King. I am His beloved, and I am precious to Him. I know that He loves me more than I could ever begin to imagine, and that He is pleased with the woman I have become (and am becoming – I am constantly growing and learning to be more like Him). So why in the world should it matter if others don’t see me as He does? Well, it shouldn’t!!! But . . . if we are all honest with ourselves, it does. Somewhere deep inside, we feel the need to be ‘accepted’, ‘acknowledged’, ‘encouraged’ . . . whatever words you wish to put on it . . .  we live in a world with other people in it and we would like people to ‘see’ us for who we are.

In the mean time, even if others don’t (or won’t) ‘see’ me like God does, I will continue to keep on seeking to become more and more like Him each and every day of my life. I will continue to do the things He asks me to do. I will continue to go to the places He directs me to go. And, I will continue to BE the person He asks me to be – my completeness is IN Him, and Him alone.

I will keep moving forward, becoming spiritually stronger with each passing day. I will continue my heart’s cry to be a vessel He can use for His glory and for the furthering of His Kingdom. NO MATTER WHAT happens, what comes at me, or against me. No matter what others may say or do or even think! I want my life to matter to Him and for Him.

Abba Father, continue Your work in me and through me. Take this person that I am and keep molding and shaping me into all that You desire me to be. Use me, Lord, to reach out and make a difference in the lives of others. Help me, Abba, not to even look towards others for affirmation, but only to You, because the bottom line is that it is You and You alone that matters! I want to be strong in You, Lord, I want to have an impact in this life – pointing others to a victorious walk with You – open my spiritual eyes to see the things that still need to change within me to accomplish all that You desire to accomplish in me and through me. In Jesus Mighty Name, amen.

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